BDSM: glossary of terms — mistress, slave, domination, fisting
BDSM is not just about "beating and subjugating." Each term has a specific practice with rules and boundaries. We analyze the main terms that are found in the questionnaires of prostitutes of Kazakhstan: what they mean, how they pass, and how much they cost. If you see the word "domination" or "fisting" in a prostitute's profile and don't understand what it is, this glossary is for you. All terms are described in simple language, without complicated terminology.
Basic terms
BDSM is a common name for practices involving power and submission. It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. In the profiles of prostitutes, it usually means a set of services: bondage, domination, role-playing games.
Domination — the prostitute dominates, the man obeys. It can be light (spanking, blindfolding) or hard (bondage, punishment). In the questionnaires of prostitutes, the level is usually indicated: "light domination" or simply "domination".
Bondage is a bondage. It can be soft (silk scarves) or hard (ropes, handcuffs). In the profiles of prostitutes, it often goes along with domination.
Roles
Mistress is a prostitute who dominates. She gives commands, sets the rules, punishes. In the questionnaire, "mistress" means that the prostitute is ready to take on a leading role.
The slave is the reverse role: the prostitute obeys your rules. She follows your instructions, but within the framework that you have discussed in advance. In the questionnaire, "slave" means that the prostitute is ready to submit.
Role—playing games are scenarios with roles: boss and employee, teacher and student, doctor and patient. You come up with a scenario, the prostitute plays along. Costumes and attributes are discussed in advance.
Practices
Light domination — bondage, spanking, blindfolding, light punishments. Without harsh sadism. Popular with beginners, it gives you a taste of BDSM without extremes. Prostitutes usually have a price within the standard range.
Strap—on is the use of an artificial phallus (strap-on) by a prostitute on a man. For those who are ready to explore new sensations. In the profiles of prostitutes, this is a separate service — not everyone is ready for it.
Fisting is the insertion of fingers or a hand. It can be classic and anal. It requires training and experience. It is not often found in the profiles of prostitutes — look at the filter.
Fetish — fixation on certain objects: feet, underwear, heels, stockings. A prostitute who is ready for fetish sessions notes this in the questionnaire. Discuss exactly what you want in advance.
Golden rain is a practice with urination. It comes in two forms: a prostitute for you (delivery) or you for a prostitute (reception). The questionnaires indicate which option the prostitute offers.
How to negotiate with a prostitute
The main rule of BDSM is that everything is discussed in advance. What is allowed and what is not allowed. Which practices are included and which are taboo. If the prostitute indicated "easy domination" in the questionnaire, do not expect harsh sadism — this is another service.
Before meeting with a prostitute:
• Write to the prostitute what scenario you need.
• Ask what is included in the program and what is not.
• Specify if you need your own attributes (handcuffs, ropes) or if the prostitute uses her own.
• Discuss the safe word — this is the word after which everything stops.
FAQ
Does it hurt?
BDSM does not equal pain. Light domination is about control, not suffering. If something hurts — tell the prostitute. Everything should stay within comfortable limits.
How much does BDSM with a prostitute cost?
Usually 5,000–15,000 KZT more than the standard program. The exact price is listed in each prostitute's profile.
Is it okay for a beginner?
Yes. Start with "light domination" or role play with a prostitute. It's a gentle entry into the topic without extremes.
Do I need my own equipment?
Not necessarily. Most prostitutes use their own. But if you have specific props — bring them.